With the rising divorce rate and the trend to be untruthful these days, it is almost as though the marriage vows have been changed from “Till death do us part” to “Till I get tired of you and someone better comes along.” On October 11, 1994, Randall Curlee and Victoria Ingram were married in San Diego at the Sharp Memorial Hospital in hospital gowns. Now, who wants to get married in a hospital in hospital gowns? Well, here is the story.
Randall and Victoria were in a progressive dating relationship when doctors told Randall he needed a kidney. All of Randall’s relatives were checked for possible donor-ship, but none were found to be compatible. Finally, Victoria asked to be examined and discovered she and her finance’ were a perfect match in more ways than one. So, just prior to Randall’s kidney transplant the couple were married then were promptly put to sleep. If they were looking for a unique honeymoon, this was it.
While very few marriages experience a biological connection like the Curlee’s did, many couples are missing the key component for an enduring and successful relationship. It’s called, spiritual oneness with God. He is our creator and He initiated the man and woman marriage. And He cautions His people to, “Be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness and what communion hath light with darkness?” (II Corinthians 6:14)
Yes, attraction, fun, intellect, sex are important to having a happy and long lasting marriage, but the adhesive to holding the relationship together is Jesus Christ. He is the lasting bond. It’s not ironic that Jesus performed His first miracle at a wedding. He was sending us a profound message which I believe to be: He will continue to perform miracles in every marital relationship when He is invited in. When a man and his wife are struggling with their relationship to the point of contemplating divorce, the Lord will bring healing and love to them when they welcome Him in. He is still working miracles in marriages today.
Marriage is first of all a spiritual union, secondly emotional, and thirdly physical. Notice that I put the spiritual first. The reason being, it is the most important and most enduring aspect of a relationship. From my observation, most marriages break apart because couples put these three points backwards: the physical which is chameleonic, emotions which can change on a dime, and lastly the spiritual. Denote that a true vibrant enduring marriage is based upon a profound relationship with God. Too many are leaving out this most important connection in life.
So, for your own knowledge you must understand that a marital relationship is the second most important decision people will ever make. What is the first? A strong relationship with God! He gives us favor, wisdom, and all that we need for our marriage. For more info you can visit us at www.JoyChristianMinistries.com
Pastor J.C. Myers, III
Pastor J.C. founded Joy Christian Ministries in 1992. He was Sr. Pastor at Joy Christian Ministries in West Sacramento, California from 1992-2016. He was succeeded by his 2nd son, Pastor Brandon Myers who had been under his father's ministry and teaching for 39 years.